The Blended Tribe

Marriage is a Promise.

My parents are celebrating their 39th year of marriage today. They have been such a great example of what a marriage is expected to be. There has been struggling, laughs, happy moments, heartache, tears, and through it all, they are still going strong today.

Marriage is a promise to never give up on each other.

My parents made that promise 39 years ago, and they have kept it.  I tried to follow in their footsteps, but life didn’t go as planned, and that’s ok. So, here I am for the second time making the same promise and hopeful that this was the last time I will have to make that promise.


Happy Anniversary Mom and Dad! We love you guys, and thank you for your continued support and love.

These pictures were taken by our amazing photographer DeeDee! Check her out HERE

 

 

♥  The Blended Tribe

 


 

L♥ve Is Intentional

I’ve been so sick ya’ll!! I finally caught the nasty cold going around in our area.

We dropped off my kids on Saturday afternoon with their dad and had two kid-free nights, so Sunday was supposed to be our Valentine’s day. Neither one of us is big fans of Valentine’s Day. I feel like you should be showing your partner love all through the year, not just on one day. We don’t get crazy about celebrating it, but we have made the tradition of splurging on a ridiculously expensive dinner together each year for the occasion. Jon was so sweet and remembered to call and make reservations at our favorite spot. The day came, and I had him cancel. I couldn’t waste a fantastic meal that I can’t even taste, plus the thought of getting dressed up and having to look good sounded even worse. IMPROVISE….a nice dinner at home. I didn’t have to get dressed up, and I married a man that loves to cook and is pretty damn good at it!
I guess the point of this post is to prove the fact that it doesn’t matter where you are as long as you’re there with the right person, and honestly, this isn’t any different than any other night we have alone. I feel like it’s the intention behind things. We intended to spend some quality time together, and that’s what we did. You don’t have to make Valentine’s Day a ridiculous blown out event. Be intentional, show the people in your life you love them by spending time with them.  Don’t get caught up on one day, you should be loving your spouse intentionally 365 days.

♥ The Blended Tribe


 

The Reasons Why We See a Marriage Counselor

Do we see a Marriage Counselor? Hell YES, we do!
Why? Well, Why not?!?

Marriage counselor

We started seeing one because we felt it would be beneficial for us to have a non-bias person mediating some of our concerns especially when it comes to the kiddos. We got a referral from somebody we trust and low and behold; she’s a step-mama too!! There are so many positive reasons to go to counseling with your spouse. It will improve relationship satisfaction, and you gain a better understanding of how your spouse feels, it promotes positive ways to resolve conflict, and much more.
With this being both of our second marriage, we have a lot going against us statistically. Neither of us wants to be another statistic when it comes to our marriage and our family. We’re doing everything possible to avoid it from happening again. Hopefully, our determination and love will prevent that from happening a second time, but God only knows that people can drastically change and you have no control over another person thoughts or feelings.
We’re going as a preventative, and so far I think we both are amazed at how much we’ve benefited from it. It’s important to find the right counselor for you and your spouse, so keep looking until you find the right fit. Be selective about who you take advice from; you’re not going to receive marriage advice from somebody who’s been divorced a couple of times and not married, right?!?  Be selective.
If you need a recommendation for counselors in the Five Cities, then hit me up @ brilee4@gmail.com.              ♥ The Blended Tribe

 


 

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