The Blended Tribe

Veterans Day

 

Thank you to all who have served and all who are serving this great country of ours, and a special thank you to my brother-in-law and my husband for serving!

We appreciate you all!

 

Check out this link for a long list of deals and discounts on this day.

 

Veterans Day is a time for us to pay our respects to those who have served. For one day, we stand united in respect for you, our veterans.   -military.com

 

 

♥  The Blended Tribe


 

Our Happy Divorce

OUR HAPPY DIVORCE-I didn’t realize there could be such a thing as a happy divorce until I had the joy of reading this book written by once married Nikki DeBartolo and Benjamin Heldfond.

What I enjoy about this book is that it is not written from one person’s point of view. The book has chapters from both Nikki and Ben (divorced) along with their current spouses Chad and Nadia. It was refreshing being able to read from all points of view.

I have to say my favorite chapter of the book was at the end, and it was written by Asher (the son of Nikki and Ben). The life that these four adults have made for this one child is incredibly selfless, and I have a tremendous amount of respect for all four parents. The payoff is in the fruit of their son and how happy and well balanced he is. I love that Asher doesn’t look at himself as having two separate homes, he states in the book that “home is whichever one I’m currently at.” I love that he can feel this way and pray that my stepkids think this way as well.

I highly recommend reading this book. Nikki and Ben’s situation isn’t for everyone, but I sure wish it was. Unfortunately, all parties have to be on the same track. The track needs to be that the kids come first…ALWAYS, and that you put your petty crap behind you and move forward. This thinking is exactly what Nikki, Ben, Chad, and Nadia did and are continually doing, and they are living happier lives for it.

 

 

Click on the link to get your hands on a copy of Our Happy Divorce

You won’t regret reading this book!  Another amazing book about divorce and co-parenting is


 

 

 

 

 

DIY Mail & Key Holder

Mail & Key Holder

 

Check out this cute mail and key holder that the hubs made for me today after seeing it in my Amazon cart.  It’s simple, yet it does the job.  Keeps my mail and keys organized with a spot for the shades.  Love it!    The hooks were purchased at Lowes and cost us $7.50.  We used scrap wood and extra paint that we had laying around.

Here are the dimensions from Amazon if you choose to make one.  This is about $30.00 on Amazon

Happy Crafting

 

 

Check out the Crafty Tribe page for more DIY projects and ideas.

Apolis Sweeptstakes

How cute are these Apolis bags?!?!  Apolis is giving away one of these adorable bags and the sweepstakes ends on October 7th @12pm

 

Click on the link to enter for a chance to win:  Apolis Sweepstakes

 

I absolutely love my Apolis bag and use it on the reg.  I use it as an overnight bag, at the grocery store, work, sporting events.  This bag is the perfect for all occasions!

 

 

GOOD LUCK!

♥ The Blended Tribe


 

Meal Planning->Saves Time & Money

With a family of 6, meal planning is a necessity. If we are lucky, the weekends are spent getting ready for a busy week ahead. I’ve found that planning out our meals ahead of time makes our weekday schedule a lot less hectic and we save a lot of money by doing this.

 

I’m not a big crockpot fan, so we aren’t able to just throw things in the crockpot and come home to a cooked meal.

I try to stick to a budget of $120 a week for grocery shopping. Yes, this requires looking at the store ads on Tuesday, and stocking up on sale items, along with coupon shopping ( I love a good sale, and I LOVE coupons….ask any of my kids).
Here’s how I go about this:

I have to look at our week ahead. This coming week is going to be busy so that means that I need to have meals prepared ahead of time and in the freezer ready to go.  We have to plan ahead or we are lost throughout the week, which will result in eating out.
Once I come up with the menu, I write it out on the menu board in the kitchen.

Here’s what our week ahead looks like.

Monday-Sweet Potato Tacos (prepare ahead)  I’m excited to try this recipe out.  Here is the link if you’re interested in trying it for yourself →Smitten Kitchen

Tuesday-Veggie rice bowls

Wednesday-Pasta Bake, bread & salad (make ahead & freeze)

Thursday-Enchiladas, rice & beans (make ahead & freeze)

Friday-Order pizza

Saturday-BBQ

Sunday-Soup & Grilled Cheese

The items I freeze I will cover in foil and write the baking temp and time just in case I’m not home to put it in.  This way if I have to ask a kid to throw it in the oven for me, it’s all written out and they know what to do.

 

This is one example of how we try to stay organized in our blended mess.  For all things frugal visit the Frugal Tribe Page

I would love to hear about some your ways of staying organized and planning ahead.

♥ The Blended Tribe

GETTING OLD IS A BITCH!

So, I went for a run in our new neighborhood the other night. Unfortunately with our schedule I don’t have a lot of free time on my hands, so night or early morning is the only time I can exercise….that means it’s dark out. I now know that we don’t have the best lighting in our neighborhood. I ate major shit on the sidewalk trying to get out of the way for a car driving by. Humbling…..YES!
Getting old is a bitch! I’ve never taken a fall this bad. I have an appointment on Monday to get an MRI. We can really see what is going on after that. I’m hoping that I’m just a big baby, but something doesn’t feel right with my knee.
In the meantime, I will gimp around with this lovely knee brace that the doctor gave me, and try to avoid the question of what happened? I’m hoping that posting it for the world will prevent the dreaded question from here on out.
The entire situation is sad and hilarious at the same time.
Here’s to a better week ahead!

The Big Move

We bought our first house as a blended family! We moved a little over two months ago. I’ve been waiting to post about it because I needed a picture to post….lame, I know. It took us an entire month to get the time to take a mediocre picture in front of our house, and another month to get the time to post about it.

So, here it is.

Gracie, Ashton and I had lived in our old house together before Jon and his kids came into the picture. That had always subconsciously played into our homes dynamic.
The kids and I went through a lot in our old house. Our first time living on our own, finalizing a divorce, me going from full-time Mom to full-time working Mom, inviting a new family in our home, and sharing with them, getting remarried, this is just naming a handful of the significant life changes that happened there. The move was bittersweet for me. It was hard leaving all those memories behind and leaving the best neighbors EVER!!
Even though it was hard to leave our old place, I’m optimistic that this is a fresh start and move in the right direction for our blended tribe. It’s an even playing ground from here on out in this house. It’s not a big house by any means, but it’s perfect for us.  We are slowly but surely making this place home.  I’m excited for all the memories our family will share in this home.

→I have to throw a HUGE shoutout to our AMAZING realtor Kristin over at Hunstad Reality. She was extremely patient with us during this process. We took forever to find the right fit house for our tribe, and she knew what we wanted, and she made it happen! We had almost impossible demands on price and what we wanted, and she was patient with us the entire time. She gave us creative ideas along the way, and we are so grateful for her!

If you’re looking for a house on the central coast, you have to look her up!  Check her out here


 

Cole’s 14th Birthday.

 

Cole celebrated his 14th Birthday last Friday. It's hard to believe we have a 14-year-old in the house now. I get excited for the kids getting older. I know they have their entire life in front of them, and as much as I enjoy them being kids, I get excited to wonder and see what the future holds for them. Each one of them has different strengths and weaknesses, and watching them grow is a privilege. Fourteen takes me to the realization once again that we only have a matter of years left to get our kids ready for the world. Chores are extremely important, and teaching them all the life skills we can is a must. These kids will be off to college soon, and they need to be capable of taking care of themselves. The kid's on their own is something I think about a lot and know that although these kids hate the chores and responsibilities we put on them, they will learn to appreciate it when they are older. 
I will get a post together of our chore binder along with what is expected of each kid. I think it's so helpful to see what other parents are doing so that way you can figure out what will work for you. 

So, we were at the fair all last week, and Cole got to celebrate his Birthday with new friends and some fam. All in all, I think he had a great Birthday week, and I can't remember a time that I've seen him work so hard and be as social as he has with people he really didn't know all that well until now. It's crazy to say, but I've seen huge growth in the matter of a week. I've never seen him this happy and so much in his element. Spending an entire week in a pig pen was never a place I would've imagined this kid being happy😂. Who knew?!? 🤷🏼‍♀️ 

Cole's Birthday dinner of choice.....Cracker Barrel for the first time. Good times. Happy Birthday to my stepson. We don't always "get" one another, but I think we try and that's all that matters. 








		

Happy First Day of May

Happy May! We have a busy month ahead of us. It’s a little sad when you are only on the 1st day of a month, and you can’t wait for it to be over already. That’s where I’m at though. I’m ready for summer and all it has to bring this year. I’m honestly to the point where I need a break. Any other mama’s out there feeling this way right now?? With the school year almost to an end, sports,
4-h activities, and everything else on top of that, I feel like I’m at my max right now. I feel like I have a mini-meltdown every Spring. You would think that I would know better and not take on more things the next year, yet every year Spring rolls up, and it’s meltdown central again.

On the agenda for this month:

Miss Anabelle’s B-day
Mother’s Day
Mini-staycation for the hubs and I
End of baseball, track, club volleyball season
VB Tournament weekend
End of school year activities
Keep the kids fair projects going strong
SURVIVE!

This year I’m at the point where I refuse to let myself stress about every little thing. I can’t do all that I want to do or feel like I need to do, and that’s okay. I found this quote, and it hits home for me. It’s all in the way that we think about our situation. I’m continually reminding myself of this. ♥

 


 


 

3 Years—Happy Anniversary!

He is my partner in crime, the man that challenges me daily. We don’t have a perfect life, and we have our challenges and struggles just like everyone else. The important thing is that we are committed to one another and committed to this tribe that we have created. Some days I realize just how easy it would be to give up, but quitting in all actuality is the easy way out. We fight for what we want if we truly want it. So here’s to another year of fighting!
Happy Anniversary!

 

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