The Blended Tribe

Camping Lives On

We took this photo while starting our Thanksgiving vacation camping and in the rain. We look happy right?! The kids were inside the trailer watching a movie, and Jon and I were cozied up by the fire with a beer and a glass of wine. It was a good start. Little did I share what happened the next day. This was our first Thanksgiving camping, and all but two of our tribe was excited about it. I think from all the rain to the complaining to the 8-year-old rubbing a tortilla on her body (another story for another time), I had had my feel!! I told Jon that I was ready to sell our trailer and I don’t want to go camping again with these kids!! I was OVER IT! When you have kids complaining and acting out and then a rainy, muddy mess to add to the experience, it was a recipe for disaster, and I was questioning why we even make an effort to do this stuff. I lost my sh*t people! I had to take a moment and dig deep and center myself aka I prayed and asked God for help.

What started as a frustrating Holiday where I was ready to disown every child (not literally), turned into a cool bonding experience with our two older ones who complained about camping in the first place. We played cards with the two of them for a good portion of the day and night, and it was probably the most fun I’ve had with them in a long time. They are goofy and ridiculous and a lot of fun. It was nice to get that time with them, and I’m confident that by the end of the trip they had fun too.

It’s hard when you have four kids ranging from eight to thirteen; you don’t ever feel like you can make every single one of them happy at one given time. Most the time I don’t care, but sometimes this can wear me down. I guess it’s one of those things that I’m learning you have to assess the situation and focus in on which one or two need the attention or extra care the most at that moment.

So, we are keeping the trailer for now, and we will continue to camp, and we don’t care who likes it or not. We will continue to do it because you never know when you will get those much-needed bonding moments with the kids. We will continue to camp because I believe deep down that when they are older, these are the trips that they will remember and hopefully pass on and do with their children. We will continue to camp so that they can disconnect from their phones and video games to get outside and experience new things and nature.

It might kill us, but camping lives on in this blended tribe!

 

Pecan Pie

At one point in my life, I lived in Ft. Knox, Kentucky (I was an Army wife for many years). There wasn’t much that I liked about living in Kentucky. I do have one fond memory that took me back while I was baking a homemade Pecan Pie for Thanksgiving. We went to have dinner with some friends that lived off base. They had a sweet, little, lady for a neighbor.  She had made us a pecan pie to have for dessert, now up until this point I had decided I didn’t like pecan pie and I had come to this conclusion even though I never in my life tried a bite of one. It didn’t look appealing to me, so, therefore, I must not like it.
I wanted to be polite, so I took a piece of this homemade pie and holy s**t!!!! I’ve missed out on this deliciousness for over 20 years just because it didn’t look like it tasted good!?!

So, today I made my first pecan pie. I didn’t make it for myself, but I made it for the person that I care about the most…..my hubby. I had planned on going and buying him one because something that tastes that good should be complicated to make right?! I looked up recipes and turns out it’s not that complicated at all. I can smell the pie cooking as I write this blog post, and I’m feeling pretty accomplished along with remembering a good memory from a place in time where I was miserable in my surroundings.

So, there is a point to this post, and the two takeaways are:

1) Don’t judge a book by its cover…..dig in and take a bite or dig deeper and get to know that person better even if they don’t look like somebody you would invest your time. You never know what good things can come from just digging a little deeper.

2) Always look for the positive or the bright side in every situation. I was miserable living in Kentucky for a year. I don’t even want to go into all the details about what made that place hell for me, but this is the one positive thing (I know it’s pretty small and ridiculous) that I took from that place, and I will never forget this memory.

I’m going add a third point.

3) Do something special for your spouse today even if it’s small. Jon LOVES pecan pie. I told him I would make sure to buy him one and he was grateful. When I came home the next day and mentioned that I was going to bake him one, I got the biggest smile from him which melted my heart. Him knowing that I was taking the extra time out of my already crazy schedule to do something special for him made him feel important, and that was obvious by his reaction.

Now let’s pray this pie turns out. If it’s a winner, I will be sure to share the recipe.

 

💗 The Blended Tribe


 

A Blended Thanksgiving

This Thanksgiving we have all four kids!! We decided to take our Turkey on the road. We are celebrating our 2018 Thanksgiving camping!! The older two aren’t thrilled about it, but the younger two are excited….you can’t win them all, right?! We aren’t traveling far, but if this works out, I can see it as our new tradition. We have family coming out to celebrate with us, and we are looking forward to being together and trying something new. Did I mention it might rain 😉 It will be an adventure!

I know how hard the holidays can be within a blended family, and this Thanksgiving I’m truly blessed not to have to worry about an exchange or not having our kids. That’s not the case for all of you this year, and I know that. Keep your chin up, focus on the positive, create new traditions with you your spouse, friends or alone! Don’t sit around being sad over something you can’t control though! Please stay positive, every holiday won’t be this way, and know that I’m thinking about you!!

Hit me up on email brilee4@gmail.com or IG @ the_blended_tribe if you’re having a hard time. You’re not in this alone, and I will do my best to talk you through it!

Click on Holiday Blending to get more tips on surviving this time of year.

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