Find humor in the crazy!
♥ The Blended Tribe
Cole celebrated his 14th Birthday last Friday. It's hard to believe we have a 14-year-old in the house now. I get excited for the kids getting older. I know they have their entire life in front of them, and as much as I enjoy them being kids, I get excited to wonder and see what the future holds for them. Each one of them has different strengths and weaknesses, and watching them grow is a privilege. Fourteen takes me to the realization once again that we only have a matter of years left to get our kids ready for the world. Chores are extremely important, and teaching them all the life skills we can is a must. These kids will be off to college soon, and they need to be capable of taking care of themselves. The kid's on their own is something I think about a lot and know that although these kids hate the chores and responsibilities we put on them, they will learn to appreciate it when they are older. I will get a post together of our chore binder along with what is expected of each kid. I think it's so helpful to see what other parents are doing so that way you can figure out what will work for you. So, we were at the fair all last week, and Cole got to celebrate his Birthday with new friends and some fam. All in all, I think he had a great Birthday week, and I can't remember a time that I've seen him work so hard and be as social as he has with people he really didn't know all that well until now. It's crazy to say, but I've seen huge growth in the matter of a week. I've never seen him this happy and so much in his element. Spending an entire week in a pig pen was never a place I would've imagined this kid being happy😂. Who knew?!? 🤷🏼♀️ Cole's Birthday dinner of choice.....Cracker Barrel for the first time. Good times. Happy Birthday to my stepson. We don't always "get" one another, but I think we try and that's all that matters.
Any of you out there watch this show?? It grabbed my attention while I was going through my divorce. Season 5 came out and there is some fun blended family action going on now. Check it out!
Here is a quick update on what’s going on with us:
•School and sports are over for summer…..thank GOD!
•We moved! Which means no sleep. The two young ones are having difficulty adjusting to the new house and all the change. They aren’t the only ones, though; I don’t handle change all that well either.
•I had a little shift in my job—-> it’s the same job but added on more responsibilities and more hours.
•The kids are gearing up for fair. We are down a pig due to Cole’s pig passing away unexpectedly. Only AJ and Anabelle will be showing this year now.
I think that’s it as far as updates go. The move has taken a lot of our time, and we are hoping that life will settle down a little bit and we can enjoy some our summer. We will see how that works out.
I have some blog posts in the works right now. Keep checking back for those. There’s been lots of blended family chaos in the mix of all this 🙂
♥ The Blended Tribe
Happy May! We have a busy month ahead of us. It’s a little sad when you are only on the 1st day of a month, and you can’t wait for it to be over already. That’s where I’m at though. I’m ready for summer and all it has to bring this year. I’m honestly to the point where I need a break. Any other mama’s out there feeling this way right now?? With the school year almost to an end, sports,
4-h activities, and everything else on top of that, I feel like I’m at my max right now. I feel like I have a mini-meltdown every Spring. You would think that I would know better and not take on more things the next year, yet every year Spring rolls up, and it’s meltdown central again.
On the agenda for this month:
Miss Anabelle’s B-day
Mini-staycation for the hubs and I
End of baseball, track, club volleyball season
VB Tournament weekend
End of school year activities
Keep the kids fair projects going strong
This year I’m at the point where I refuse to let myself stress about every little thing. I can’t do all that I want to do or feel like I need to do, and that’s okay. I found this quote, and it hits home for me. It’s all in the way that we think about our situation. I’m continually reminding myself of this. ♥
Now that Easter is over….next up….MOTHER’S DAY! Oh, the joy of Mother’s Day as a Stepmom. I have two kids of my own, so Mother’s Day isn’t as difficult for me as it is for some Stepmama’s out there. I have faith that at some point on Mother’s Day my stepkids thought about me, and I’m good with that in itself.
I know that it’s hard for stepmoms out there that don’t have their own kids, and my heart goes out to you all ♥ You put your love, sweat, and tears into your stepkids and all you want is a little recognition. You’re expected to play mom, but not get any credit on a day that is all about mom because you didn’t give birth to them. Everything about that sucks!
I challenge you NOT to let Mother’s Day get you down this year!
Here are some ideas of how to avoid Mother’s Day gloom:
1) Focus on your Mom that day-Show your mama some love!
2) Plan a day of pampering yourself and show yourself a little love. Hey, you’re a stepmom, and you deserve to be pampered and treated special on Mother’s Day. Plan a spa day for yourself, go shopping for yourself, treat yourself. If nobody else is going to do it, then make it happen for yourself! You deserve it!
3) Do you have other stepmom friends? I think it would be fun to have a little stepmom gathering on this day and celebrate not being celebrated together:) Go to lunch together or drink a bottle (or two) of wine while supporting one another through this day. You’re not alone!
I think the most important thing is to plan it out. You know that this day is coming, and don’t expect anything. Plan for yourself and avoid any sadness or heartbreak that might be attached to this day for you. If you get down in the dumps, know that you are letting other people win and control your day. Don’t allow that to happen!
Cole and Gracie had the first track meet that they both participated in last week. So naturally, we made them take an embarrassing picture together where they look like they get along 🙂
Parenting is the most fun when you get to torture your teens.