The Blended Tribe

Veterans Day

 

Thank you to all who have served and all who are serving this great country of ours, and a special thank you to my brother-in-law and my husband for serving!

We appreciate you all!

 

Check out this link for a long list of deals and discounts on this day.

 

Veterans Day is a time for us to pay our respects to those who have served. For one day, we stand united in respect for you, our veterans.   -military.com

 

 

♥  The Blended Tribe


 

Our Happy Divorce

OUR HAPPY DIVORCE-I didn’t realize there could be such a thing as a happy divorce until I had the joy of reading this book written by once married Nikki DeBartolo and Benjamin Heldfond.

What I enjoy about this book is that it is not written from one person’s point of view. The book has chapters from both Nikki and Ben (divorced) along with their current spouses Chad and Nadia. It was refreshing being able to read from all points of view.

I have to say my favorite chapter of the book was at the end, and it was written by Asher (the son of Nikki and Ben). The life that these four adults have made for this one child is incredibly selfless, and I have a tremendous amount of respect for all four parents. The payoff is in the fruit of their son and how happy and well balanced he is. I love that Asher doesn’t look at himself as having two separate homes, he states in the book that “home is whichever one I’m currently at.” I love that he can feel this way and pray that my stepkids think this way as well.

I highly recommend reading this book. Nikki and Ben’s situation isn’t for everyone, but I sure wish it was. Unfortunately, all parties have to be on the same track. The track needs to be that the kids come first…ALWAYS, and that you put your petty crap behind you and move forward. This thinking is exactly what Nikki, Ben, Chad, and Nadia did and are continually doing, and they are living happier lives for it.

 

 

Click on the link to get your hands on a copy of Our Happy Divorce

You won’t regret reading this book!  Another amazing book about divorce and co-parenting is


 

 

 

 

 

We Got You.

 

 

Don’t worry!
We got your back!

I think the early teen years might be my fave so far. There is nothing easy about it, and it’s a challenge for sure.

Challenge accepted!

These kiddos need to know that we got their back no matter what. Our job is to guide our kids through the beginning years of their lives. When one of our kids are struggling, they need to know that we are there for them. We are going to guide through the good and the bad, and pray to GOD that we turn these teens into some pretty rad adults.

 

♥  The Blended Tribe

Click here to read about one of my biggest parent-fail so far.


 

The Big Move

We bought our first house as a blended family! We moved a little over two months ago. I’ve been waiting to post about it because I needed a picture to post….lame, I know. It took us an entire month to get the time to take a mediocre picture in front of our house, and another month to get the time to post about it.

So, here it is.

Gracie, Ashton and I had lived in our old house together before Jon and his kids came into the picture. That had always subconsciously played into our homes dynamic.
The kids and I went through a lot in our old house. Our first time living on our own, finalizing a divorce, me going from full-time Mom to full-time working Mom, inviting a new family in our home, and sharing with them, getting remarried, this is just naming a handful of the significant life changes that happened there. The move was bittersweet for me. It was hard leaving all those memories behind and leaving the best neighbors EVER!!
Even though it was hard to leave our old place, I’m optimistic that this is a fresh start and move in the right direction for our blended tribe. It’s an even playing ground from here on out in this house. It’s not a big house by any means, but it’s perfect for us.  We are slowly but surely making this place home.  I’m excited for all the memories our family will share in this home.

→I have to throw a HUGE shoutout to our AMAZING realtor Kristin over at Hunstad Reality. She was extremely patient with us during this process. We took forever to find the right fit house for our tribe, and she knew what we wanted, and she made it happen! We had almost impossible demands on price and what we wanted, and she was patient with us the entire time. She gave us creative ideas along the way, and we are so grateful for her!

If you’re looking for a house on the central coast, you have to look her up!  Check her out here


 

Marriage is a Promise.

My parents are celebrating their 39th year of marriage today. They have been such a great example of what a marriage is expected to be. There has been struggling, laughs, happy moments, heartache, tears, and through it all, they are still going strong today.

Marriage is a promise to never give up on each other.

My parents made that promise 39 years ago, and they have kept it.  I tried to follow in their footsteps, but life didn’t go as planned, and that’s ok. So, here I am for the second time making the same promise and hopeful that this was the last time I will have to make that promise.


Happy Anniversary Mom and Dad! We love you guys, and thank you for your continued support and love.

These pictures were taken by our amazing photographer DeeDee! Check her out HERE

 

 

♥  The Blended Tribe

 


 

Difficult Situations.

Find humor in the crazy!

 

♥ The Blended Tribe


 

Cole’s 14th Birthday.

 

Cole celebrated his 14th Birthday last Friday. It's hard to believe we have a 14-year-old in the house now. I get excited for the kids getting older. I know they have their entire life in front of them, and as much as I enjoy them being kids, I get excited to wonder and see what the future holds for them. Each one of them has different strengths and weaknesses, and watching them grow is a privilege. Fourteen takes me to the realization once again that we only have a matter of years left to get our kids ready for the world. Chores are extremely important, and teaching them all the life skills we can is a must. These kids will be off to college soon, and they need to be capable of taking care of themselves. The kid's on their own is something I think about a lot and know that although these kids hate the chores and responsibilities we put on them, they will learn to appreciate it when they are older. 
I will get a post together of our chore binder along with what is expected of each kid. I think it's so helpful to see what other parents are doing so that way you can figure out what will work for you. 

So, we were at the fair all last week, and Cole got to celebrate his Birthday with new friends and some fam. All in all, I think he had a great Birthday week, and I can't remember a time that I've seen him work so hard and be as social as he has with people he really didn't know all that well until now. It's crazy to say, but I've seen huge growth in the matter of a week. I've never seen him this happy and so much in his element. Spending an entire week in a pig pen was never a place I would've imagined this kid being happy😂. Who knew?!? 🤷🏼‍♀️ 

Cole's Birthday dinner of choice.....Cracker Barrel for the first time. Good times. Happy Birthday to my stepson. We don't always "get" one another, but I think we try and that's all that matters. 








		

Girlfriends’ Guide To Divorce

Any of you out there watch this show??  It grabbed my attention while I was going through my divorce.  Season 5 came out and there is some fun blended family action going on now.  Check it out!

 

 

June Update

 

Here is a quick update on what’s going on with us:

•School and sports are over for summer…..thank GOD!

•We moved!  Which means no sleep.  The two young ones are having difficulty adjusting to the new house and all the change.  They aren’t the only ones, though; I don’t handle change all that well either.

•I had a little shift in my job—-> it’s the same job but added on more responsibilities and more hours.

•The kids are gearing up for fair. We are down a pig due to Cole’s pig passing away unexpectedly. Only AJ and Anabelle will be showing this year now.

I think that’s it as far as updates go. The move has taken a lot of our time, and we are hoping that life will settle down a little bit and we can enjoy some our summer. We will see how that works out.

I have some blog posts in the works right now. Keep checking back for those. There’s been lots of blended family chaos in the mix of all this 🙂

 

♥ The Blended Tribe

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