We bought our first house as a blended family! We moved a little over two months ago. I’ve been waiting to post about it because I needed a picture to post….lame, I know. It took us an entire month to get the time to take a mediocre picture in front of our house, and another month to get the time to post about it.
So, here it is.
Gracie, Ashton and I had lived in our old house together before Jon and his kids came into the picture. That had always subconsciously played into our homes dynamic.
The kids and I went through a lot in our old house. Our first time living on our own, finalizing a divorce, me going from full-time Mom to full-time working Mom, inviting a new family in our home, and sharing with them, getting remarried, this is just naming a handful of the significant life changes that happened there. The move was bittersweet for me. It was hard leaving all those memories behind and leaving the best neighbors EVER!!
Even though it was hard to leave our old place, I’m optimistic that this is a fresh start and move in the right direction for our blended tribe. It’s an even playing ground from here on out in this house. It’s not a big house by any means, but it’s perfect for us. We are slowly but surely making this place home. I’m excited for all the memories our family will share in this home.
→I have to throw a HUGE shoutout to our AMAZING realtor Kristin over at Hunstad Reality. She was extremely patient with us during this process. We took forever to find the right fit house for our tribe, and she knew what we wanted, and she made it happen! We had almost impossible demands on price and what we wanted, and she was patient with us the entire time. She gave us creative ideas along the way, and we are so grateful for her!
If you’re looking for a house on the central coast, you have to look her up! Check her out here
Right here is our family, The Blended Tribe. He had two kids, and I had two kids. We turned our two separate families into one blended mess over three years ago now. There is a lot of love and a lot of heartaches that go into keeping a stepfamily together. There is a ridiculous amount of fights over kids and parenting styles. The longer we keep fighting to keep our family together, the better it seems to get.
Why am I telling you all this?!
First of all, I’m reintroducing our tribe to you all. It’s been a while since I’ve shared who we are.
We have the oldest, Cole (Jon’s kid) who just turned 14 and all of a sudden got a personality. This kid has been one of my biggest challenges to figure out. He’s a little quirky, but he has a good heart and is starting to figure out where he belongs in our family.
Then there is Gracie (my kid) who is three months younger than Cole, and you wouldn’t know it. She takes on the role of the oldest for sure. She has an attitude and a personality that I relate to because she’s my kid. She is 100% my child in every way.
AJ (my kid) is next! AJ is ten, and he’s your typical middle child. He went from being the baby to being a middle kid, and that was a hard adjustment for sure. This kid has a temper like no other. He is sick of putting up with the other kids crap, but then he has the biggest heart. He is a kind soul and has the best manners for a ten-year-old.
That brings us to the baby Miss Anabelle (Jon’s kid) who is nine. This one!!! She is loving, smart, and she is brave. She doesn’t have a lot of fear, which scares me a little for her. She is kind, but also gets pure joy out of torturing and annoying her older siblings.
The second reason is I want you all to know that this sh*t is hard! I try to keep things as positive as I can because I choose to do that. I can dwell on the negative, but that won’t get any of us anywhere. Raising kids is hard enough, helping raise stepkids in a blended family environment is a whole other level of hard, probably the hardest thing I’ve ever done.
Parenting other people’s kids makes parenting your own kids a walk in the park.
I’m here to listen and encourage you through it. You are going to have the shittiest of times, and then that will all go away when you have those fantastic moments together, these are the moments that make it all worth it. The reason I started this blog was to help people by sharing my struggles and experiences. I’m just trying to survive blended living. I definitely don’t have it all figured out, and NEVER will. All I know is that I’m a fighter and I want to encourage all of you to keep on fighting for your families!
♥ The Blended Tribe
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My parents are celebrating their 39th year of marriage today. They have been such a great example of what a marriage is expected to be. There has been struggling, laughs, happy moments, heartache, tears, and through it all, they are still going strong today.
Marriage is a promise to never give up on each other.
My parents made that promise 39 years ago, and they have kept it. I tried to follow in their footsteps, but life didn’t go as planned, and that’s ok. So, here I am for the second time making the same promise and hopeful that this was the last time I will have to make that promise.
Happy Anniversary Mom and Dad! We love you guys, and thank you for your continued support and love.
These pictures were taken by our amazing photographer DeeDee! Check her out HERE
♥ The Blended Tribe
Cole celebrated his 14th Birthday last Friday. It's hard to believe we have a 14-year-old in the house now. I get excited for the kids getting older. I know they have their entire life in front of them, and as much as I enjoy them being kids, I get excited to wonder and see what the future holds for them. Each one of them has different strengths and weaknesses, and watching them grow is a privilege. Fourteen takes me to the realization once again that we only have a matter of years left to get our kids ready for the world. Chores are extremely important, and teaching them all the life skills we can is a must. These kids will be off to college soon, and they need to be capable of taking care of themselves. The kid's on their own is something I think about a lot and know that although these kids hate the chores and responsibilities we put on them, they will learn to appreciate it when they are older. I will get a post together of our chore binder along with what is expected of each kid. I think it's so helpful to see what other parents are doing so that way you can figure out what will work for you. So, we were at the fair all last week, and Cole got to celebrate his Birthday with new friends and some fam. All in all, I think he had a great Birthday week, and I can't remember a time that I've seen him work so hard and be as social as he has with people he really didn't know all that well until now. It's crazy to say, but I've seen huge growth in the matter of a week. I've never seen him this happy and so much in his element. Spending an entire week in a pig pen was never a place I would've imagined this kid being happy😂. Who knew?!? 🤷🏼♀️ Cole's Birthday dinner of choice.....Cracker Barrel for the first time. Good times. Happy Birthday to my stepson. We don't always "get" one another, but I think we try and that's all that matters.
Any of you out there watch this show?? It grabbed my attention while I was going through my divorce. Season 5 came out and there is some fun blended family action going on now. Check it out!
Here is a quick update on what’s going on with us:
•School and sports are over for summer…..thank GOD!
•We moved! Which means no sleep. The two young ones are having difficulty adjusting to the new house and all the change. They aren’t the only ones, though; I don’t handle change all that well either.
•I had a little shift in my job—-> it’s the same job but added on more responsibilities and more hours.
•The kids are gearing up for fair. We are down a pig due to Cole’s pig passing away unexpectedly. Only AJ and Anabelle will be showing this year now.
I think that’s it as far as updates go. The move has taken a lot of our time, and we are hoping that life will settle down a little bit and we can enjoy some our summer. We will see how that works out.
I have some blog posts in the works right now. Keep checking back for those. There’s been lots of blended family chaos in the mix of all this 🙂
♥ The Blended Tribe
Happy May! We have a busy month ahead of us. It’s a little sad when you are only on the 1st day of a month, and you can’t wait for it to be over already. That’s where I’m at though. I’m ready for summer and all it has to bring this year. I’m honestly to the point where I need a break. Any other mama’s out there feeling this way right now?? With the school year almost to an end, sports,
4-h activities, and everything else on top of that, I feel like I’m at my max right now. I feel like I have a mini-meltdown every Spring. You would think that I would know better and not take on more things the next year, yet every year Spring rolls up, and it’s meltdown central again.
On the agenda for this month:
Miss Anabelle’s B-day
Mini-staycation for the hubs and I
End of baseball, track, club volleyball season
VB Tournament weekend
End of school year activities
Keep the kids fair projects going strong
This year I’m at the point where I refuse to let myself stress about every little thing. I can’t do all that I want to do or feel like I need to do, and that’s okay. I found this quote, and it hits home for me. It’s all in the way that we think about our situation. I’m continually reminding myself of this. ♥