The Blended Tribe

What’s in a Name?

What’s in a name??  Apparently, to my kid’s everything is in a name! When Jon and I decided to get married, I had to have the last name talk with my two kids. I told them that I would be taking Jon’s last name and it was a talk that ended in tears and confusion for them. They wanted to know why and they didn’t like the fact that I wouldn’t have the same last name as them anymore and if they could change their name too. Personally, I couldn’t wait to drop my ex-husband’s name, but when I witnessed my kids response to changing it, it broke my heart.
Jon and I went to get our marriage license, and at that point, I was still on the fence about what I should do. Together, we made the decision right then to hyphenate my name for the time being. The kids were so happy to know that I had both names of the two different families that lived in our house.
Where I’m at now:
I’m glad that I was able to make the kids happy with my decision of hyphenating, but my God it’s been a pain in the butt! It’s ended up being a little confusing. My work email and name has to stay as it was because I didn’t technically change my name. At work, I go by the old last name, but in the world, I try to go by my new last name. It’s hard to keep up with that sometimes though. As soon as I get the chance, I’m going to make the change and drop the hyphen. I will for sure talk with the kids again before I do it, but I know that they are at a better and stronger place now to handle it differently.
I will let you know how this goes……


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