Fishing for information out of your kids about the other parent or what happened at the other parent’s house while they were with them is a big NO-NO! It makes things uncomfortable for the kids, and honestly, it does YOU no good. I”m not saying I haven’t learned this the hard way but I did figure out very early on that I don’t need to know EVERYTHING that happens when my kids aren’t with me. It’s something that I had to come to terms with and as a mother, that’s not easy, but I now know that I’m better off for it. All of our kids know that they can come and talk to us about ANYTHING and EVERYTHING. We are always here for them, and we will be as honest and straightforward with them as much as allowed.
A long time back, I decided that I don’t want or need to know and let me tell you, it felt so good. I know people that will social media stalk and hound their kids for any information about the other parent. If you are one of these people…..STOP right now!! Naturally, you want to make sure your children are safe and being well-cared. Keep an open and well-communicated relationship with your children and trust me, they will tell you when things aren’t right all on their own. When they do tell you things, you then have to come up with a neutral response or try to listen without forcing your opinions in on the matter. Also, please never show emails or texts between you and your ex to your children. There’s no need to put kids in the middle of grown-up situations. Their not ready to be dealing with these things and kids these days already have so much drama on their plates, they don’t need their parents/step-parents adding to that.